Love is all around, just not easily spoken about.
Possibly suffering from an overactive fourth (heart) chakra the other night, I decided it was time for the kids to express their love for each other.
Earlier in the day it had occurred to me that while I am effusive in my gushing love for them both, they never tell each other any of their feelings other than “you’re hurting me,” or even the odd “I hate you.”
Cosied up on my bed after bathtime, we snuggled away and I listed through my usual love chatter. It goes like this….
“Do you know how much I love you?”
“No” they say in unison.
“I love you more than all the trees in the world.”
“Aaawwww” they say.
“No! Wait! I love you more than all the leaves on all the trees in the world.”
“Awwwww” they say.
“No! Wait! I love you more than all the trees and leaves and bugs on those leaves and bits of dirt that those trees grow in.”
“Awwwww” they say. And it doesn’t matter the area we’re covering (we’ve quantity surveyed most areas of matter over the years), their answer is always the same… “I love you all that PLUS infinity.”
And I say, “I love you all that PLUS infinity PLUS one.”
And then we skew off into a discussion of theoretical mathematics and things descend into general confusion.
But the other night I finished up by saying, “Miss Fruitarian. Do you love Mr Meat & Potatoes?”
“Yes” she said.
“Well then, you should tell him.”
“I love you sometimes… Mr M&P”.
Mr M&P smirked his way through that exchange, but then it was his turn.
“Mr Meat & Potatoes, do you love Miss Fruitarian?”
“So you should tell her. It’s important to tell people that you love them.”
He actually giggled before spitting out, “I love you Miss F, when you’re not being annoying.”
Being a MASSIVE tell-people-you-love-them type (don’t come too close after I’ve had a few wines), I was slightly appalled at how difficult they found this simple task.
I’m vowing to enforce more of a love-in so that they can share positive feelings naturally and without me around.
So now I’m curious. Do you tell your siblings that you love them? And do your kids comfortably express love for each other?
Here’s something else they do both love…
Full of love (and tuna, egg & vegies)
Tuna, egg & vegie pastry pockets
180g can tuna in springwater, drained, flaked
2 boiled eggs, peeled, mashed
1 small carrot, grated
Handful green beans, ends removed and finely sliced
1/2 cup spinach leaves (english spinach or silverbeet), very finely chopped
2 tbsp fresh herbs, finely chopped (dill, chives, parsley are all good), optional
1 cup firmly packed grated cheese
5 sheets store-bought puff pastry
1 egg, whisked, for sticking and glazing
Preheat the oven to 180C. Line two oven trays with baking paper.
Separate out your sheets of frozen pastry and leave to thaw.
In a medium mixing bowl, combine the tuna, eggs, carrot, beans, spinach, herbs and cheese.
Either cut each of your pastry sheets into four squares, or go all fancy and use a small saucer to help you cut out four circles. Divide the tuna mix between each of the 20 bits of pastry (ends up being about 2 tbsp per piece).
Use a pastry brush to spread some egg mix over half the circle edge. Ease over the pastry. Seal with your fingers then press down on the edges with a fork to secure them. Pop onto your baking trays. Brush with extra egg.
Bake for 25 minutes until golden.