Romance is dead – long live romance

My husband and I both forgot that today is our wedding anniversary. We’d spent last night discussing April-month-end issues without either of us tweaking to the fact that the next day would be May 1, the anniversary of our glorious wedded bliss. It wasn’t until this morning that it dawned on me that if yesterday was April 30, then that made today… THE MOST ROMANTIC DAY OF OUR MARITAL YEAR. Shame then, that I hadn’t had a shower or brushed my teeth and that Mr VS had just a minute to kiss me goodbye before heading out to hunt, gather, collect yams, kill oxen, run websites and do other manly things that support our family.

I yelled after his retreating back, “I LOVE YOU… AND I PROMISE TO HAVE A SHOWER BY THE TIME YOU GET HOME…”

I might even stop by the boozer to pick up a bottle of something fizzy. And I might even spend more than $10.

Older couples assure me that romance picks up again once the kids leave home. But considering how late we leave it to have babies these days, I’m not sure if I’ll have any working parts left by the time I hit 65 (apparently menopause will leave me shriveled and unwelcoming). So best to grab whatever romantic moments I can along the way, which means tonight I’m going all out. I’m going to put on my newest bonds undies, my best tracksuit pants and whisper really lovely things in my partner’s ear (but only during the ad breaks of The Voice).

Is romance dead when you’ve got children under 10? What do you think? How do you try to keep things a bit lovely at your place? I could use a few tips.

Now I know I promised either congee or rice paper rolls this week, but best if I post a recipe up that is one of Mr VS’s favourites – this chicken & udon soup from VS1 is always devoured with gusto and finished with proclamations of eternal love. But am I actually making this tonight for my beloved? Well… er… no. I don’t have any of the ingredients. But at least posting this, he’ll see my good intentions.

Happy Anniversary my love.

Not quite oysters & champagne - but chicken & udon soup instead.

Udon soup

2 chicken stock cubes
3 tbsp soy sauce
3 tbsp mirin
1 tsp crushed ginger (fresh is best but bottled is OK)
2 tsp sugar
¼ tsp ground white pepper
1 star anise (optional, but highly recommended)
500g chicken thigh
fillets, fat trimmed
¾ cup frozen peas
1 small carrot, peeled, cut into long matchsticks (just for fun)
½ green capsicum, deseeded, finely diced
Corn kernels from 2 ears of corn, rusks removed, kernels sliced off
400g packet udon noodles

Pour 6 cups water into a large saucepan and place over medium-high heat. Add the stock cubes, soy, mirin, ginger, sugar, pepper and star anise (if using). Bring to a gentle boil. Remove from the heat, add the chicken and cover. Leave chicken to poach 10-15 minutes until just cooked through.

Remove the chicken and set aside to cool slightly. Once it is cool enough to handle, slice the chicken into thin pieces.

Return the pan to a low heat and bring to a simmer. Add all of the vegetables and chicken and simmer for 4-5 minutes until the vegetables are cooked to your liking.
Meanwhile, prepare the udon noodles according to packet directions. Usually soaking them in boiling water for a minute is enough to loosen them. Divide between the bowls and pour soup over.


Udon (饂飩)

9 Responses so far »

  1. 1

    Barbara Good said,

    Love the look of this soup, I might just be able to get away with it given that it includes noodles.
    As for the romance thing, I’m no help. We forget our anniversary often, even before kids. And since the first baby arrived a romantic even seems to involve doing the dishes and folding nappies together. We do occasionally make it to a football game on our own and enjoy a dinner of hotdogs and chips, so intimate with the 40,000 people there!

  2. 2

    Kristi Grigg said,

    I love this post. Our wedding anniversary is tomorrow and we have a 5 yo, 3 yo and 4 mth old. Romance is long gone!!

  3. 3

    wendyblume said,

    Just in case you need it kristi…

  4. 4

    Mr VS said,

    Mr VS has seen and notes with great affection the good intentions posted here… I love you more than I did 8 years ago. I WILL be home early. xo

  5. 6

    Jane Baroni said,

    I can relate…after 7 years of courship we married on April 30, 17 years ago….yesterday my Hubby who is a morgage broker said “I’ll be home late tonight cause my last appointment is at 8pm”…he then said “ah it’s April 30th & our Wedding Anniversay did you forget” ? I reminded him if he had remembered we would be going out for dinner & he wouldn’t have made those appointments. We have two boy’s aged 13 and 14 & yes it really is about making an effort. Unfortuneatly the spontinateity isn’t what it used to be ♥

    • 7

      wendyblume said,

      jane! I’ll toast you tonight when I have a glass of prosecco. Very depressing to hear that the romance doesn’t return after the kids turn 10. 😦

  6. 8

    Lulu said,

    I think it depends. My husband and I have three small kids (3,3 and 4) and he works days, I’m at uni at night. We’ve been together 15 years. We go through stages where we can’t get enough of each other and others where we would be lucky to have “romantic moments” once a week. I think it has got better since I turned 30 (dirty-30’s as my girl friends say!) As for sponteneity, I think we are more spontaneous now as we have to grab the oppurtunity when it is there lol.

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    beckoes said,

    Winning! Just added another meal to the kids rotation! 🙂 although mine don’t eat peas and sweet corn so we had broccoli carrots and white cabbage. Loved the soup! Happened to have some home made chicken stock which was put to good use in this! Yum yum,! 🙂

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